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I woke this morning thankful for the grace of friendship. Recently, I gave up a friendship based on certain assumptions, then something happened and our past dictated it necessary to make contact. After the conversation started that connection was as natural as breathing. When I did the foundation of the friendship transcends the mixed thoughts and bridges the space.
Before the conversation ended I admitted the reason for the non-contact and we both understood the misinterpretations. The bridge was repaired because the bond and the commitment of our friendship. Sometimes in life we need to let go and focus, as too often, we look for perfect people and if they do no measure up we abandon them.
I hope that you do realize that if you too have encountered a similar situation it is not too late. With conscious action we can avoid the phrase “if only I knew.” Today you can make that first step, the writer Carleen Brice says it best in Walk Tall “Hindsight gives us all perfect judgment…it is time to walk with a new and better friend – love”
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Recently, after reviewing a book I found the readers who gave the author one or two stars were her most trenchant critics because of the way she expressed her actions during her precocious youth.
In life we tend to get caught up in personalities and not the lessons we have learned. Our parents are usually our first role models no matter how bad we thought they were, they have taught us survival and forgiveness. I recall one of my friends when her adult son got mad and stormed out, she would laugh and say ‘boy I am your mother you will be back.’
For most of us we do not have a biological bond with celebrity role models so we cast them in the ‘ocean of forgetfulness’ and treat them like pariahs and scoff at the mere mentioned of their name when they act contrary to what we perceive should be right. I find that people get so upset when people they hold to a certain standard (Oprah, Obama, May Angelou, Tiger Woods, Jill Scott, Erykah Badu or anyone else they put on a pedestal) show themselves as flawed and fallible.
The question is who are the fickle ones? I once read some where: people come into our lives to bring us a gift or a lesson we need to learn. So my advice today is cherish the lessons you are given and forget the bitterness and criticisms. As Napoleon Hill puts it “Criticism will plant fear or resentment in the human heart but will not build love or affection.”
Soar and the world sees you
Sing and men will hear you
Rise and your followers are many
Dream and there will be plenty
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Poem by Brenda L McCartney
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